I told you my crazy trainer personality was just my disguise and MAN at first, I FELT STUPID!

I told you my crazy trainer personality was just my disguise and MAN at first, I FELT STUPID!

Ever wonder why we begin and quit with things that can better ourselves like getting out of debt, exercising, repairing a relationship, eating whole foods, lengthening our muscles through stretching, planning for 7-9 hours of sleep per night, taking time away from exercise to heal 100%, getting to clearing out the junk room- -finally, or taking a stand for your Self in situations where you normally wouldn’t?  I’ll tell you why I believe this to be:

  • Fear of success
  • Fear of failure
  • Lack of discipline
  • Lack of commitment
  • Lack of initiative
  • Lack of urgency
  • Lack of belief
  • Lack of focus
  • No game plan
  • Here’s a big one- -no mentorship

Did you notice I didn’t put lack of time?

We all know that if we really want something we will put in the time. We will create the time and we will look forward to being immersed in that time.  No matter what. Right?

Let’s break it down a little more. I believe that the infirmities that plague a person are not due to “the cards life dealt them” but rather, a few things like:

  • Generational passing of behaviors. Your parents, more often than not, raised you the way they were raised- -they know no better or different. Their parents before them and their parents before them.
  • Internal disbelief. We believe what we are told, over and over again. What were you told you were or were never going to be growing up? (Refer back to generational passing of behaviors)
  • No understanding of how to break the pattern, or that it even can be broken. “This is my life,” is a general thought, so you put your head down and grind it out, believing it’s the only way, resulting in the conditions you or people you know may be experiencing like physical ailments, emotional ailments, and mental ailments.

Pessimistic. Stagnant. Feeling broken. Without hope. Feeling this way how can anybody want to pull out of the funk, the meds, the self-hatred and loathing?

Now we’re back to beginning and quitting, and here come the excuses:

I can’t because____________________________. You fill in the blank; you’re an expert at it. Go on, tell me why you can’t afford outside help, why you can’t make the time, why you don’t have the resources, why your life is harder than anybody else’s and why you feel you are entitled to what you believe you are entitled to. Tell me why you lost focus because you “couldn’t concentrate or why “it didn’t seem

like it was working,” and you only tried whatever it was….twice


But you do have everything right in the palm of your hand- -if you believe it. I think Victor Frankl said it best:

“Everything can be taken from a person but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitudes in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”


That’s it.

And here’s a little tool, a powerful tool and it won’t cost you a thing. I invite you to use these words any and every time you feel the noise start to go off in your head that, (give me a sec, the tool is coming), “I suck at this, how can anybody love me I’m a mess, I hate people and they hate me, FML, I’m fat, this is life and I better just get used to it, I never have any money in my bank account, everyone is out to screw me, I could NEVER run a 10K, I’ve always been shy and will never be able to hire a trainer why won’t anybody give me a break and let me train for free,” etc., etc., etc. I learned this tool a few years back and still use it today and I must say that at first, I FELT STUPID doing it, but after I made a decision and committed that no matter what I was GOING to feel better about myself, it got easier. This tool I am sharing was given by Joe Vitale, a Law of Attraction expert that goes like this that you will repeat to yourself- -out loud- – when you feel like crap, “I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.”

It’s free.

It works.

All you’ve got to do is say “yes” to the changes you desire, and it can begin here with these powerful little words and do it for 90 days straight, “I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.”

I chose to write them down on a post it and put in my car until I learned them in this order. (Hee!)What happened with me when I made this decision? At first like I said, I felt stupid! Pssssh, talking to myself like an idiot! Stupid changed to “whatever.” Whatever changed to “Did I actually talk myself into a peaceful place?” That turned into, “I actually do have the power to change what and how I think, don’t I?” Continued by a breaking down of the outer layer of the BIG FAT brick wall I had built over the years. After that the walls came tumbling down in my heart, in a great way, and that lead to me on the path I am on now, and it was okay to be softer. That it didn’t make me weak but rather, more powerful than ever.

Oh you didn’t see my comment on a recent Facebook post that said, “I told you my crazy trainer personality was just my disguise?”







You always have a choice of how you feel, and I choose to feel better and happy, period. So can you!

“I love you, I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you.”



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